Seeker beware: The interpersonal costs of ignoring advice

•Advisors interpersonally penalize those who do not follow their advice.•Expert advisors penalize seekers more than non-expert advisors.•Advisors interpersonally penalize seekers consulting multiple advisors.•Advisors to “multiple advice-seekers” perceive their advice will be disregarded.•Advice seekers view the purpose of seeking advice as gathering information.•Advisors (vs. seekers) view their purpose as more to provide direction.•Seekers should consider interpersonal goals alongside decision accuracy ones.