Gender Differences in Object of Desire Self-Consciousness Sexual Fantasies

In a recent review article, Bogaert and Brotto ( 2014 ) discussed “object of desire self-consciousness,” a perception that one is romantically and sexually desirable in another’s eyes. They argued that this perception is more relevant to women’s sociosexual functioning than it is to men’s. In the present study, we attempted to find direct evidence that object of desire themes are linked more to women’s sexual desire and arousal than they are to men’s by examining the differences in content between men’s and women’s sexual fantasies. A total of 198 men and women reported on arousing themes in sexual fantasies using three methodologies: endorsement of items on a sexual fantasy questionnaire, sentence completion of sexually-charged scenarios, and open-ended sexual fantasies. The men and women also rated their attractiveness and were rated for attractiveness by two female experimenters. On all three fantasy composites, women endorsed more object of desire themes than did men, and these effects occurred independent of the subjective and observer-rated attractiveness measures. The results were discussed in relation to theorizing that object of desire self-consciousness can function as part of many women’s self-schemata or scripts related to romance and sexuality.